Moving On

Okay, I admit it. I am sad about Dan Fogelberg's death. "Another Auld Lang Syne" ranks right up there with "Leaving on a Jet Plane" and "Brandy" (don't ask) as my top weepy songs of all time. Having him die during the Christmas season just amplifies the "wailability" of the song. My sons have learned that if they interrupt my wailing of these songs while we drive down I-75, I will simply turn the radio up to max and squall louder.

Of course, EVERY emotion is amplified during this season. If you are annoyed with your brother, you'll find that it's full-blown anger. If you are nostalgic about a loved one who has died, you may find that you are more distracted and scattered by your memories than usual.

It's natural to be reflective during the holidays. If you are out of control--saying things that you mean, but didn't mean to say--it's time to regroup.
#1 Get off by yourself. Lock yourself in a bathroom, or better yet, bundle up and take a walk.
#2 Drink a glass of water and get rehydrated (oh, maybe that's number one--especially if you're going to lock yourself in the bathroom anyway).
#3 Eat an apple or some carrots--just so YOU know you are making an effort to fortify your system rather than undermining it with,
#4 Go to bed. Either get to sleep before midnight or lay down for a 20-minute nap.
#5 Call a disinterested party: Your buddy in Texas. Your therapist. A 1-900 number.
#6 Force a little catharsis. If you're feeling growly, go see Sweeny Todd. If you need a good cry--sing along with Dan.

Don't try to eat or drink your way to equilibrium, however. The sugar rush to your brain's pleasure center is a false high and will get you in long-term trouble. Alcohol might help you keep a lid on your tongue--until the third margarita, when all bets are off.

When you feel extra pressure, figure out what your release valves are--and use them intentionally. In maintaining your emotional health (which is always tied, of course, to your physical health) planning and foresight will get you through.

Keri

P.S. Last-minute gift trouble? Sign her up for Belly Dance 101 via paypal and I will send you a printable "Welcome" letter via e-mail to put under the tree.